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The Courage to be Happy

True Contentment Is In Your Power By Ichiro Kishimi

  • The purpose of education is to teach self-reliance
  • Respect is seeing another person for who they are
    • Give children respect, so they respect you
  • Don't scold problem behavior... but don't praise good behavior, either
    • Don't praise children for good behavior
      • They need to do that behavior
    • Don't scold them for bad behavior which they don't know is bad
    • Children are attention seeking, so they will do same things again and again to get attention
  • Praise inhibits growth and encourages unhealthy competition
    • Giving praise says, "I respect you when you act in one way, but not in other ways."
    • In marathon, surrounded by other runners, you feel no rivalry towards others. That's what competition without rivalry looks like
  • Your friendship is the most powerful lesson you can give your students
  • Birth order influences children's behavior... and adults' too
    • equal relationships with each children
  • Love supports the transition from dependence to self-reliance
  • Actionable advice: Don't dole out praise, cultivate empathy
    • Don't say, "You are kind for sharing", instead say,
    • When you shared your toy with that Kid, you made her feel very happy