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13 Things Mentally Strong Parents Don't Do

  • Promote responsibility and perseverance over a victim mentality
  • Don't parent with a strategy of avoidance. Instead, teach you kids healthy ways to deal with guilt and fear
  • Set strong boundaries so your child doesn't think the world revolves around her or that she holds power over you
  • Don't expect perfection or intervene every time your child makes a mistake
    • Try to resolve his own conflicts in the playground
  • Mentally strong parents don't shelter their child from pain
  • Don't prevent your children from experiencing the whole spectrum of human emotions
    • Let them have boredom, sadness
  • Mentally strong parents understand the difference between discipline and punishment
  • Mentally strong parents make sure their actions match their values
  • Actionable advice
    • Teach children how to change the channel
      • Think about white bears for 30 sec
      • Don't think about white bears for 30 sec (fail)
      • Do engaging task (sorting a deck of cards) for 30 sec
      • He would not have thought of white bear
      • Changing your behavior can change his thoughts