13 Things Mentally Strong Parents Don't Do

• Promote responsibility and perseverance over a victim mentality
• Don't parent with a strategy of avoidance. Instead, teach you kids healthy ways to deal with guilt and fear
• Set strong boundaries so your child doesn't think the world revolves around her or that she holds power over you
• Don't expect perfection or intervene every time your child makes a mistake
  • Try to resolve his own conflicts in the playground
• Mentally strong parents don't shelter their child from pain
• Don't prevent your children from experiencing the whole spectrum of human emotions
  • Let them have boredom, sadness
• Mentally strong parents understand the difference between discipline and punishment
• Mentally strong parents make sure their actions match their values
• Actionable advice
  • Teach children how to change the channel
    • Think about white bears for 30 sec
    • Don't think about white bears for 30 sec (fail)
    • Do engaging task (sorting a deck of cards) for 30 sec
    • He would not have thought of white bear
    • Changing your behavior can change his thoughts